Take the time out to think about your thinking, assert your needs, and give yourself some compassion.
We all hate the idea of making several trips in the house after a run to the grocery store. Veins will be popping out of our arms, fingertips purple, and those bag lines will darn near make permanent indentions in our before we are willing to make a second trip to the car...especially in the … Continue reading Who’s in your tribe: how to recognize those valuable relationships and the repercussions of not having them.
If you are looking at life through the lens of "I am bad" and "I am not worthy" you will forever see situations and circumstances as things that are happening TO you instead of seeing them as situations you can work through and conquer.
Have you ever met someone that never seems to be living in reality? We question their sound judgment based on the choices they make against the undeniable world that surrounds them. It's almost as if physical pain would encompass their entire body if they had to make a decision based on reality versus the world they believe to … Continue reading The Cost of Reality Checks
Dear Foster, It's a new year. YAAYYYYY! We made it! As people were celebrating a new year and previously celebrating Christmas with gifts, family, and food, I stopped to wonder how you were handling these festivities. I imagine these past two weeks have been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. The anxiety of not knowing … Continue reading Letter to my favorite foster III
As we finish with 2017 people all across the world will resolve to change certain behaviors and aspects of their life by setting goals for 2018. The stats are pretty dismal for the number of people that actually stick with their resolutions long enough to create real change in their life. Maybe part of the … Continue reading When the Man in the Mirror is Hard to Face
Three words that often tell my clients, trust the process. In fact, I give them this information at the beginning of our time together. It goes something like this, "There will be times that it will get rough, there will be times that you may not like me, that's okay, I'll still be right here … Continue reading Trust the Process
If we observe person putting in half the effort to reach their goals WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYY are you stuck on what they COULD be doing (their potential) if they aren't thinking enough of themselves to do all they can do now?!
As a family therapist, I recognize that relationships are a huge factor in an individuals life. If one of our important relationships are out of whack we tend to feel a little off balanced until we are able to resolve the issue within that important relationship. We accept that relationships are needed for support and connection. … Continue reading Who Really Has Your Back: Why Accountability Matters
It must be the most painful realization, knowing you are the only one in your sibling group that was not placed in a forever home. Not only did you not have your "forever family," you have haven't had a stable "temporary family." No, what you have gotten is placement, after placement, after placement, mostly in … Continue reading Letter To My Foster II